Grief books

I've started reading grief books. It's hard as you might imagine. It's hard to read about grief when you're living grief and it reminds you of your grief. But id think there may be value. 

One of the things this last one says is that you are a different person than before.  To wit:  My relationship with Katie has changed. It's not the same as before. I have to accept this change and the change it causes in me to evolve into a new person. 

I ahould develop new routines and habits. I should expect my personality to change (ever hear the expression "get better or get bitter"? I'm hoping for personality improvement here).

I need to practice more love. 

I need to develop more patience. 

I need to give myself more fully. 

I need to prepare for more change, because it's coming whether I want it or not. 

I'll never be the same as I was before. Now what am I going to do about it?